My heart understands all too well the thoughts and emotions they are feeling now! There is never a time when you are prepared for this moment! I know! It brings to remembrance the time that we took Kohlie to have a scan to check her because she had quit walking. At that time we knew it was only a matter of time for her as well, but we valued each day with her and were not focused on doing scans, but just keeping her comfortable. The scans revealed that her cancer had ate away in her joints (making in no longer to bear weight on her legs) and a large mass in her chest. I will not forget that day and coming home with the realization that it was only a little time that we had left with her! We had been told that, but still we were not prepared to see it in the scans and to realize the finality of it!!
I don't want this post to be about our story, but this is where my understanding comes from with what they are dealing with. Memories come and I don't want to push them away. This is life, folks!! This is reality. Some day we will all face it!
I have wondered how I would have faced cancer as Sylvia did for 20 years! Honestly, I just can't fathom it! I watched Kohlie fight cancer for 2 years and I vowed to myself that if I found cancer staring me in the face, I would not be willing to deal with the side effects of chemo, radiation, blood draws, transfusions, and on and on! Now I realize that is pretty selfish of me! Not once would Sylvia regret this extra time she has had with her family and watching her grand babies come into this world, and grow!!! Not once would she regret the extra time put into a meaningful relationship with her husband, children, in-laws, sisters, and on. It is about God's timing anyway.
Ecc. 2
"To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die.....A time to weep, and a time to laugh, a time to mourn, and a time to dance,.....He hath made everything beautiful in HIS time.....All go unto one place, all are of the dust, and all turn to dust again."
I love Ecclesiastes. My thoughts and prayers are with this family at such a difficult time.
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My thoughts exactly! loved your post!
What a great post and how difficult it is to lose someone you care deeply about. It seems like cancer touches everyone lives.
The benefit I found about having a bit of warning was that I had time to think about and say what needed to be said, and I could value the time we had together KNOWING it was limited. I'm glad their kids have that time, too.
Kim, that is so true!! With a child so young as Kohlie, there was not a lot of things that needed to be said, but with it being your mother, wife, etc. there would be much more that you would want to say,or questions to ask!!
Thinking of this family too. What a rough time for them all.
Thank you for this update. I've been wondering how Sylvia was doing. She is such a special lady. I'll miss seeing her at convention this next year! It is about God's timing. If she had been meant to go early on even the chemo and that wouldn't have saved her. Her family will have so many precious memories because of her willingness. My thoughts and prayers are with them as well.
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