My kids were happy to see me, though, and my hubs!! I gave them their gifts and here they are!
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| Cyrus with a matching mustache! |
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| bag from sugar land! |
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| Bella sweet style |
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| my boys with their 'staches |
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| Bear thought they were pretty great! |
I some how missed getting Treva and Katreese in a picture with their gifts. Crystal and I found "wings" that go on their shoe laces that we thought were pretty cute and fun!! I thought maybe the girls would want to put them on their basketball shoes (Treva made the team!!) since they both will be playing basketball. Katreese asked to play in Happy Camp, where Treva played the last couple of years and while it definitely will take my life to a new level of crazy, I feel like I have to give Katreese this chance too!! Anyway, the girls were not quite as excited about the wings as we were!! We'll see...
It was no surprise to me that this week has been extremely difficult after getting back home. It feels like I have been getting every one of my buttons pushed (a lot of them I never knew I had before I adopted kids) and Eden could even tell me in her own words that she has been pushing me all week (and her teacher at school). Back to the testing, testing, testing!! "Is Mom really serious?" "Can I make her mad because she left me?" Then, it's about the boundaries again and making sure the boundaries are STILL the same. And, "what if I push Mom and how far will she go and what will she do?" "Will she still keep me?" "Let's see if she will notice me when I do exactly what I know is wrong!" (even though Mom always does...) "I will make Mom feel sorry for me and put on a sad face and then she will change her mind and not stick to the same rules!" Oh, it is so exhausting!!!! Even Little Bear had a tough week. Wetting the bed when he hasn't done that in FOREVER, grumpy mad face about everything!! UGGGH! So, I know that Bear is doing the same in testing me and he is also not as good with communication, although he did tell me he missed me! With Eden, though, Cade and I feel it is time for her to step up to the plate and put in place some of these things we have taught her. She is so smart and she knows.... I KNOW that she has a lot of feelings and she may not even understand all of them and I don't expect her to or even expect her to sort them out. What she can do, though, is let us help her. We have continued with ignoring and downplaying the manipulation and just period try to not give her the chance. I also know that this is a rough time for her with changes, me being gone and coming back and then their Turkey Break started today so she feels upheaval inside because her schedule has been changed!
I am seriously still trying to accept that some people close to us may never just respect our choices in dealing with our kids. They do not understand and see the whole picture yet still feel it is their "duty?" to say something and yet I feel more thankful than ever for my husband who supports me because we are truly in it together and he understands now more than he ever has!! We are roughing it out here. It is not what I would have hoped for a the beginning of the kids' break. However, I told the other kids that regardless of the decisions Eden wants to make, WE WILL have fun and enjoy our time together. In the deepest part of my heart I want Eden to be a part of that....!
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